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user-inactivated  ·  3351 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: How much of your identity are you hiding? How much of it do you display?

Oh, don't get me wrong: I pick what I wear carefully, for aspects that I enjoy being associated with, and so do others. One can even infer what you are - or, at least, what you present yourself as - from what you wear. What I mean to say is - it's not as powerful a story as people make of it, and it certainly shouldn't impact how you treat a person. It does, very often, but it shouldn't: humans are humans, whatever they wear; it's not the color of their hat and not the silk of their jacket that makes them what they are.





randomuser  ·  3351 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Ok I think that is a bit more clearly stated lol. I would agree that clothes don't make you who you are, but they definitely affect others perspective, at least initially, of you. Which can in turn affect how you view yourself.

It's like the whole rose by any other name thing. Yeah, it would smell as sweet, but it wouldn't be a rose if we called it something else. Would it?

user-inactivated  ·  3351 days ago  ·  link  ·  

    It's like the whole rose by any other name thing. Yeah, it would smell as sweet, but it wouldn't be a rose if we called it something else. Would it?

One would be miserable to wear suits if one doesn't enjoy it. Therefore, however you call the person, the social smell of theirs won't change no matter what they wear - unless they haven't been something other than a rose already. You see what I mean?

randomuser  ·  3350 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I got you. Granted I don't know that many guys who don't feel like James Bond when they put on a tux, lol.

user-inactivated  ·  3350 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I feel horrible in it. Like a goddamn prison right over my skin. Don't move or this will fall out, don't bend over or your bloody napkin falls out... Nasty feeling.

randomuser  ·  3345 days ago  ·  link  ·  

That's a bad suit.

user-inactivated  ·  3345 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Bad feeling for a suit, rather. Tried multiple, at different times - none worked. Nothing against a suit on anybody, but I'd rather not.

randomuser  ·  3344 days ago  ·  link  ·  

My suits are all very comfortable. That's what I meant by bad. I was just walking around Rome in a vest/button down. The shirts are especially awesome because they are made out of insanely soft, light fabric.