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user-inactivated  ·  3313 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: What Universal Human Experinces Are You Missing?

    We all have needs and sex is one of them

Mark Manson explains why sex is not a need (in short, it's a drive to have other needs met, but do read forth as it also explains what TNG has touched on his last sentence).

I've figured the subject out only recently, after years of masturbation. I was lying in my bed, getting ready for the thing (since I was masturbating very often by the moment - once a day or two - it would take me a while to get into the mood again), I realized that what turns me on more in the fantasies was not the sex itself nor so much sexual pleasures (softcore BDSM, squirting, so on), but the intimacy, the emotional connection between me and the other person. No wonder I've only been fantasizing lucidly about having sex with the only person I've ever connected to, and even then it wasn't purely moving my dick in her vagina back and forth.