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kleinbl00  ·  3250 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: December 30, 2015

Made our fifth meal for ten last night. Two of which are gluten-free, five of which are vegetarian, two of which fear spice, none of which overlap. My nephews only tried to steal my daughter's legos twice and limited their breakage to horrible things I was going to have to regift anyway. All in all, total success.

The house is warm, the floor is clean - oh wait, my daughter just spilled beads all over but she's on it - and my desire for a wood chipper inspired my mother-in-law to go halfsies on one that I'm going to use to clean out my in-law's place and hopefully reduce them a number or two on the hoarder scale. Actually looking forward to that. Asked my wife for a honey-do list and have so far knocked out more than half of it. The drain clog was at least 12 feet down but as I now have reason to own things like drain augers again, I own a drain auger again and the drain clog is past tense.

On the minus side, my sister called this morning because apparently my father doesn't feel like talking on the phone to tell me that my cousin is going into hospice, so that's nice. I'm also finding out second-hand that his big move, from Hoarder Heaven to The House That Hasn't Been Touched Since Three Relatives Died In A Week In 2011, the move that he "needs all the help he can get", has been carefully selected to overlap the one gig I can't pass up, whose schedule has been iron-clad since 2007.

My sister is fond of saying "(kleinbl00) loves us all very much, he just doesn't like us." I've started muttering "maybe if you didn't make it such a pain in the ass things would be different."

Happy New Year, Hubski. Keep your friends close and your family as close as you can stand.





blackbootz  ·  3250 days ago  ·  link  ·  

That honey-do list idea is just the sweetest thing. I can't wait to worship my other half in thoughtful ways.

I just broke up with my girlfriend. Life is split wide open. Plans asunder. It's ok. I "know" I'll be ok. Just on shakey and sad ground again. But it's heartening to hear lovely things going on on the other side of the world. I wish your family and extended family the best for 2016.

OftenBen  ·  3250 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Bro-hug from the mitten. Making plans is difficult, and somehow making plans for one can sometimes be harder than making plans for two. Once I come up with a good fix for that that doesn't involve bourbon I'll let you know.

mk  ·  3250 days ago  ·  link  ·  

    The drain clog was at least 12 feet down but as I now have reason to own things like drain augers again, I own a drain auger again and the drain clog is past tense.

Consider yourself lucky. Two weeks ago the kitchen sink plugged. The Drain King opened it, but two days later is clogged again. I had a 15' augur. No dice, and subsequent excessive use of the Drain King led to the old copper pipe springing a leak down in my basement. I went to Lowes and got a 50' augur. Still, no dice.

I ended up cutting out about 8' of 2" copper pipe and replacing it with PVC. The clog was about 54' from the drain, and about 2' from the floor.

user-inactivated  ·  3250 days ago  ·  link  ·  

You guys are quickly making me reconsider the prospect of buying a house in 2016.

kleinbl00  ·  3250 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Honestly?

The market is going to take a shit. Buying a house in 2016 pretty much means getting locked into a mortgage until 2020.

At least, that's my professional take on it, and I was exactly right in 2007.

user-inactivated  ·  3250 days ago  ·  link  ·  

If the market does become a giant turd again, I know that'll drop house prices. Will that make it harder or easier to get a house? If I remember correctly, the first time around, banks suddenly became a lot more strict as to who they lended loans out to. Not that I think the wife and I wouldn't qualify, just that I worry about how much harder it'd end up being.

kleinbl00  ·  3250 days ago  ·  link  ·  

If you can afford a house, you should buy a house.

If you can only afford to buy a house because the banks are making money off of giving you a shitty loan they actually expect you to default on, you shouldn't buy a house.

If you can afford to buy a house, you can afford to wait until houses are cheaper.

The arithmetic is not sophisticated on this one.

user-inactivated  ·  3250 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Sounds simple enough. Thanks.

_refugee_  ·  3249 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Assuming you're in the US and haven't already bought a first home, the First Time Homebuyer Act and other similar smaller (state level) programs generally combine to make it stupid easy for you to get a loan. However, just cuz it's easy, doesn't mean you should.

If house prices go down it'll become (more of) a buyer's market. The banks only became more strict about lending standards after the housing crisis and the issues with their lending practices became apparent - I don't think it was so much due to the housing prices going down as much as both of those 2 events happening concurrently as a result of the bigger issues going on in the economy at the time. Honestly, if housing prices go down, it should be easier to get a loan because you'd need a smaller one.

user-inactivated  ·  3248 days ago  ·  link  ·  

    Honestly, if housing prices go down, it should be easier to get a loan because you'd need a smaller one.

Suddenly, I want the housing market to crash so bad I could just write a fat check and call it a day.

#selfish

_refugee_  ·  3248 days ago  ·  link  ·  

You want a buyer's market - more houses than prospective home buyers to force sellers into more competitive pricing.

Is it selfish to desire favorable market conditions for major purchases, especially if we are talking about the potential biggest purchase of your life? I don't think so, I think it's smart.

b_b  ·  3249 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Harder or easier depends on the reason for the downturn. There were at least two significant factors that made home buying so difficult last time. First, the credit crisis made borrowing of any kind (e.g. mortgage, business investment, bank to bank, etc) difficult. Second, the extreme number of foreclosures that resulted from so many people not having any equity stake in their own home made lenders too skeptical about who could afford a house. I got a mortgage in 2011. It took four months for me to get $116,000 on a house I had a 20% down payment for. Insanity. That won't happen again. For starters most people have an equity cushion now, so even when prices inevitably come down there will be far fewer people who have zero or negative equity to give them an incentive to leave.

From my experience, which is only with buying two places, I would highly recommend not buying without a significant down payment. PMI is a scam. Avoid it if at all possible. Also, obviously, you get a better rate the more equity you're supplying. The same house can cost you thousands more per year if you go in with minimal down payment.

Personally, I like owning my home. It's a nice feeling to be able to do what you want with the place, and serves as a de facto savings program (houses are great stores of wealth, but historically not great creators of wealth--don't forget that; it's a hugely important distinction). Good luck if you decide to buy. Remember that a home is more than just finance--it's where you live.

user-inactivated  ·  3249 days ago  ·  link  ·  

    From my experience, which is only with buying two places, I would highly recommend not buying without a significant down payment. PMI is a scam. Avoid it if at all possible. Also, obviously, you get a better rate the more equity you're supplying. The same house can cost you thousands more per year if you go in with minimal down payment.

Yeah. Part of what is taking us so long is that I insist we save as much as possible for a down payment. The idea that we'll be paying about 50% of what the house is worth in interest alone sounds retarded and I don't really know a way around that problem other than "throw money at it." I'm trying to play it safe. I'm not a huge risk taker. Buying a house? It's an intimidating thought.

mk  ·  3250 days ago  ·  link  ·  

It is an adventure. Just buy one that is built on high ground. Water is the enemy.

user-inactivated  ·  3250 days ago  ·  link  ·  

    Happy New Year, Hubski. Keep your friends close and your family as close as you can stand.

I flew too close to the sun and had to abort.