But remember that Jesus said, "It was not that way from the beginning", but due to the "hardness of your hearts" Moses allowed divorce (and polygamy I might add). I do agree with both abstinence and contraception (the rhythm method seems to produce a pregnancy more often than not). If one's heart intention is not "hard" then he, or she, will give their lives unabashedly and fully, to their one mate with the intention of making their, not our, lives more fulfilling and enjoyable, and thus, enjoy their lives more. As Zig Ziglar said, "If you help enough other people get what they want in life, you will get what you want"! Truer words, especially in a monogamous marriage relationship, were never spoken. I have read it said, "If the grass seems greener on the other side of the fence, then you are not fertilizing the grass on your side of the fence"! I agree wholeheartedly, we can make it work. True "Christian" and most other religions I might add, do adhere to "one man and one woman" tenants. It is better that way, and I, as a hippie with "many love interests" that only lasted as long as I, selfishly, was enthralled with the state of the "relationship" (and it accompanying shallowness of relationship without true commitment), and, if it didn't accomplish that selfish goal, it ended. The commitment was only, "skin deep" so to speak! For thousands of years as well, monogamy and "being the husband of ONE wife" prevailed, and produced a more healthy macro-economic and "emotional" state than the alternative!