Hmm. I'm much too young and inexperienced to lead such thoughtful lives as you all, but I'll share a few of my happenings this week. Could I get a coffee first? Like a sane person on a Wednesday morning? I got into an argument on the Internet a couple days ago. It really is a losing battle - I have no doubt now that many people don't interact with the real world. The topic brought up was how the newest generation of feminism is more harmful than this whole Roosh V debacle. Which is bat shit insane to me, I don't think I've even met a woman who wants to legalize any kind of violence against men. In the end, the conversation devolved into insulting me instead of my arguments, so I count it as a win. Interestingly, they assumed I was a man arguing for feminism. I'm not sure if that's a step in the right direction. On another note, I have been realizing how hard it is to have empathy for people who don't have the same sense of self as I do. I am currently watching one of my friends self-destruct for a guy she slept with for a while. It just boggles my mind that she can throw herself at his feet constantly. Two months of every single conversation being about him and I'm ready to throw in the towel. Perhaps I'm missing out on not being able to have that level of devotion to anyone... But seriously?! I think I'll pass. But maybe I'm not as practical as I think, because I'd really like a date with Johnny Gaudreau. Always gotta have dreams.
Yo, thanks. Thanks for that. It's great adding to the mental image I have of each of these usernames here. I would add that it isn't impossible to have an honest, life-altering experience, fight even, on the internet. It just requires an openness and commitment to listening that doesn't come naturally, even in meat space, let alone behind keyboards and screens. I've had my head inverted and mind blown, here on hubski in particular. It just has happened more often in real life.
I've gotten to the point where I just won't argue feminism online anymore. So many communities have built up an image of what a feminist is without seriously interacting with feminists, feminist literature, or any feminist ideals, and it's just too frustrating. No one wins in those arguments. Are you close enough to your friend to talk to her about it? You might be able to talk some sense into her.
I KNOW. It's hard to keep striving to understand another perspective when the other side won't afford you the same. Tried and failed. She has some other family issues that are the reason I want to stay and support her... But I feel like a pop tart would be more useful/emotionally resilient at this point!