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user-inactivated  ·  2945 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: November 2, 2016

    no but really, it's like I don't know where the line is between "too much" and "not enough" anymore. ahhhhhh.

"Hey, I get off work early tomorrow. You free for coffee?"

If she says "Yes," great.

If she says no cause she's busy but wants to make plans for something else, great.

If she says no cause she's busy and doesn't offer an alternative, extend another invitation early next week. If the same thing happens again, try once more. If you get the same reault, move on.





snoodog  ·  2945 days ago  ·  link  ·  

What you think is "Not Enough" is probably plenty. Avoid excessive digital communication as much as possible during early dates. Its way more likely to hurt you than it is to help you. Digital communication often lacks context and gets you into trouble because you have a poor feedback mechanism. In person its way easier to calibrate your communication.

ButterflyEffect  ·  2945 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Yeah, that's the reasonable thing to do rd95 but can't you see that I'm not in a reasonable state of mind!

Mostly just want to hear from her, but she seems like a very "in the now" kind of person and our in-person conversations are ridiculously more captivating and engaging than our electronic conversations.

kleinbl00  ·  2945 days ago  ·  link  ·  

She probably much prefers them.

Get thee some in-person time stat.

ButterflyEffect  ·  2944 days ago  ·  link  ·  

So you're like, saying I should, like, talk to her today, or something.

kleinbl00  ·  2944 days ago  ·  link  ·  

No, dude, I'm saying you should figure out something you want to do that would be more awesome if she were there and then see if she wants to join.

And if she doesn't you should do it anyway. Her loss.