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tavington  ·  2796 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: I drank my last bottle of soda today

I'm still using soda to avoid the caffeine headache, and should just give it up along with smoking. None of my usual excuses hold up because I'm currently unemployed and have nothing but free time. In my head I'm thinking "Fuck it! We'll do it live" and drop them both right now. Doubt sinks in, I get hostile to those around me, and in a few days I'm chugging coffee and chain-vaping. That's how it usually goes, time and time again.

I always wondered where the withdrawal anger was coming from, and just within the last few weeks I think I found the answer to that through comedian Bill Burr on his podcast. When your the type of person that primary relies on your brain to survive in the world, when that mechanism isn't functioning at 100% you feel extremely vulnerable, and that sounds like a reasonable answer to me. Maybe, having gained that knowledge, why not make another go of it?

I managed to win over cocaine, opioids, and alcohol in my turbulent PTSD driven 20's. A combination of pot and psilocybin saved my life, and really mellowed me out once I hit my 30's. The opioid epidemic claimed my mother, and I now have more dead friends than living ones. Even if it's down to caffein and nicotine, I'm striving to be free of all addictions down to pot and video games, and stick to long walks and meditation.

I'm hoping that sharing all that in a somewhat public place will give me that extra nudge to give it a try. I think my signing up here, was to see if I could let my guard down and be vulnerable around others. If that holds up, maybe I can quit smoking without being an absolute dick to those around me. I feel a sense of shame posting this, but logically if this in some way leads to dropping another addiction - it would be stupid not to follow through.

Congrats to everyone here who managed to quit anything at all. It's a human skill some take for granted, and I marvel at anyone who can pull it off.





Dala  ·  2796 days ago  ·  link  ·  

If you can overcome all of that, I'm quite sure you can do anything you put your mind to. Good luck and let us know how it goes.

tavington  ·  2796 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Thanks for the encouragement. It looks like I'm dropping the nicotine tomorrow due to lack of funds, and caffeine will follow shortly after if I don't find some honest work on the quick. I'm not bummed out about it, but I know the next few days won't be fun. We'll see what happens.

user-inactivated  ·  2796 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Dala's right. Sounds like you've been through a lot, and you walked out of it alive and well, seeing how you post to an online forum seeking to motivate yourself to give up other bad habits. It means you have the mentality to go for a better life, and you have the strength to seek support, even if the support is just your own.

Best of luck on your journey. Keep us posted.

tavington  ·  2795 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Thanks for the well wishes. I'm holding off on dropping caffeine for at least a week, but this morning marked my last cigarette. My girlfriend knows what's going on, and we are working out schedules to mostly avoid eachother until the withdrawals are over. I just wanted to drop a sincere thank you before my vocabulary deminishes and my brain don't think good.