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user-inactivated  ·  4320 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: 30 Questions Guaranteed To Make You Think

    If you dislike your family, are you obligated to spend time with them? Show up at family functions? Help them out in their time of need? Is a family even relevant anymore – especially when you have a close circle of friends?

This completely struck a chord with me. I've always to an extent held that you choose your friends, but you don't get to choose your family (parents, siblings, etc -- not spouse and children, obviously). I have never understood why this means you should stand by your family beyond all reason. It seems to me it should mean the opposite, if anything.

I would do anything for my best friends, who I have chosen to be with in life. I had that option, and that right, so in return I care about them. Makes sense to me.

    Is it truly worth it to die for a family member or friend? Yes, you’d be a hero, but that person would feel guilty for your death for the rest of their lives. Is that “brave” act actually cowardly because you’re transferring the guilt that you’d have felt if you did nothing and watched them die to your friend, who has to deal with the guilt of causing your death?

According to Dawkins, it is 100 percent worth it to die for an identical twin, 50 percent worth it to die for a sibling or a child, etc. (But no, that stuff about the guilt is ridiculous. That's a circular argument that can go on all day.)

    Does it matter that there’s an increasing gap between the rich and the poor if the standard of living for the poor keeps going up?

Don't look at how well the poor are compared to the rich. Look at how well the poor could theoretically be doing compared to how well they actually are doing. That's what you want to know.

Cool questions. I think I will stop kneejerk answering them now and go to bed.