Potentially. I'm going to be living in three places over the course of 6 weeks which is going to be crazy. This isn't necessarily true, I know people of both genders that fulfill either role you've outlined above. While this seems to hold true with your friend, I wouldn't live by this rule. People will surprise you if you let them. As for the last part, if all you're doing is agreeing with her and playing the "you can do better" (or similar sayings) card, then that probably works to justify what she's doing from her end. Those situations are so tricky.I guess it's one of those mixed-expectations things, women can be emotionally intimate with their friends and not physically, men can't, and thus equate emotional intimacy with impeding physical intimacy.