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comment by ButterflyEffect

Potentially. I'm going to be living in three places over the course of 6 weeks which is going to be crazy.

    I guess it's one of those mixed-expectations things, women can be emotionally intimate with their friends and not physically, men can't, and thus equate emotional intimacy with impeding physical intimacy.

This isn't necessarily true, I know people of both genders that fulfill either role you've outlined above. While this seems to hold true with your friend, I wouldn't live by this rule. People will surprise you if you let them. As for the last part, if all you're doing is agreeing with her and playing the "you can do better" (or similar sayings) card, then that probably works to justify what she's doing from her end. Those situations are so tricky.





OftenBen  ·  3979 days ago  ·  link  ·  

    As for the last part, if all you're doing is agreeing with her and playing the "you can do better" (or similar sayings) card

Nah, it's been more along the lines of 'What happened? And why? What does it mean for your next relationship?'

The past few times we've had essentially the same conversation, just worded a bit differently. I don't know if she's just lonely (Never a social person to begin with, only really leaves her apartment for school/work/her horse, Since things got rocky with soon-to-be-ex bf, that has become even more solid) or what.