Best of luck to you BE, sounds like a pretty awesome summer. It's definitely NOT what I want, but because I feel so strongly about her I'll take what I can get as far as time to be with her. (Massive schedule incompatibility all semester, she's going to be out of the country for a study abroad all summer, with one visit home for 2 days) I guess it's one of those mixed-expectations things, women can be emotionally intimate with their friends and not physically, men can't, and thus equate emotional intimacy with impeding physical intimacy. Or she's actually just really needy and I'm being strung along because she likes to have someone validate her and is afraid I'd go away if I didn't have that thread of maybe. /shrug
Potentially. I'm going to be living in three places over the course of 6 weeks which is going to be crazy. This isn't necessarily true, I know people of both genders that fulfill either role you've outlined above. While this seems to hold true with your friend, I wouldn't live by this rule. People will surprise you if you let them. As for the last part, if all you're doing is agreeing with her and playing the "you can do better" (or similar sayings) card, then that probably works to justify what she's doing from her end. Those situations are so tricky.I guess it's one of those mixed-expectations things, women can be emotionally intimate with their friends and not physically, men can't, and thus equate emotional intimacy with impeding physical intimacy.
Nah, it's been more along the lines of 'What happened? And why? What does it mean for your next relationship?' The past few times we've had essentially the same conversation, just worded a bit differently. I don't know if she's just lonely (Never a social person to begin with, only really leaves her apartment for school/work/her horse, Since things got rocky with soon-to-be-ex bf, that has become even more solid) or what.As for the last part, if all you're doing is agreeing with her and playing the "you can do better" (or similar sayings) card