My hats off to you for not caving into the in-laws. My father-in-law's pastor married us, so in a way I guess I lost that battle. That said, it wasn't much of a battle as I saw it as a way to show I was embracing his family -and his pastor was a hell of a nice guy.

That said, recently my daughter has been asking a lot of questions about this. Right now she is staying with my mom who is a Catholic. I'm a little bit terrified that my mom will go against our wishes and start describing heaven to her etc. My plan is that if she asked me where people go when they die I'm going to turn the question around to her and ask her where she thinks they go. Beyond that, I plan on being very honest with her and letting her know that I'm not sure what happens when people, animals, plants etc. die.

This all started when she asked about my wife's mom and where she was. My wife's mom died when she was only 12 years old and at the same time she was asking this, our dog died. Kids are smart, and I'm starting to realize I need to be prepared for some really big questions.