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    We provide robust empirical evidence that school performance of children in the NLSY-C declines with birth order as does the stringency of their parents' disciplinary restrictions.

Well then I'm an exception to the rule.

I'm a middle child, or as I like to say when asked "the middlest." (Because people get to be 'the' oldest and 'the' youngest. So I'm 'the' middlest.) I have an older brother and a (much) younger sister. I think that generally my parents were about equally stringent on my brother and me when they were raising us; there's less than 2 years between us so that probably helped. Typically I feel like with these sorts of questions the judgment of whether someone is "doing better" depends on the yardstick, but I'd say that from a traditional point of view I've outpaced my brother in success almost across the board:

Me:

- earned grad degree in 4 years

- found full-time corporate employment before obtaining degree

- have stayed in field and almost doubled income in 3 years

- live with roommate, support self

- have generally obtained all the normative trappings of adulthood in American society (I think?)

My brother (who, by the way, I love dearly):

- currently is in his 8th year of college*

- has been permanently expelled from the institution where he began his college career

- has a criminal record which is extensive enough so as to potentially prevent him from getting certain jobs

- does not own a car and does not have his license

- has bounced around between jobs as a waiter, coffeshop person, and now, works retail for $10/hour

In high school he had a 2.2 GPA on graduation, I had a 3.0

I'm trying to think if there's anything else. I don't know. His life is his life. I don't view him as a failure. I just view his life as different. He's still working on figuring out what he wants.

* Not consecutively, etc, there were some kerfuffles





Kafke  ·  4045 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Haha, I'm a mix between you and your brother (also a middle child here, 2/4).

I'm getting my uni degree 2 years early. Haven't found employment (except one job as a community college tutor). Don't have a car or license (my mom hounds on me about this). 4.0+ GPA in high school, but drastically dropped down to a 3.0 in university.

While my bro is more like the exact opposite. He's getting his degree a half a year late, found employment at several places, has a car/license, lower than a 4.0gpa in high school. Still low gpa (~2.7) in uni.

_refugee_  ·  4045 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Ah, I suspect the reasons you do not have your car or license are slightly different from my brother's, though. Let us just say he had both at one point in time. :)

Kafke  ·  4045 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Yea, my reason for not driving comes from a couple things. First is not having a car. My bro has his own that he won't let me use. And my parents for a long time didn't want me driving their vans. The second reason is due to busyness as well as a slight phobia of driving. But I've started along the path, hating every second :P.

b_b  ·  4045 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Man, I can't even fathom that. When I was a kid, I wanted nothing more than a driver's licence. To me, the ability to control where I was going on my own terms was a proxy for freedom, something I think many kids lack to a great extent. For my 16th birthday, my father split the cost of a 1983 RX-7 with me ($900 in 1998!), which was the happiest day of my life to date. The down side of having a sports car at age 16 is that it took me less than three weeks to total it.

Kafke  ·  4044 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Oh, don't get me wrong, I crave that freedom more than anything else. But I'd rather walk or use public transportation than drive.