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thenewgreen  ·  3987 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: What Are Things You Thought You'd Absolutely Never Change Your Opinion About?

Thanks for the candid comment ButterflyEffect, I'm sorry for your loss. My wife was 12 when her mom died. She's 34 now. There's no doubt that she thinks about her mother every day. When there is a big moment in her life, whether it be a sad moment or a happy one she will often tear up and say, "I wish my mom were here." -I don't think that will ever stop. As a parent myself now, I can say that it makes you realize how incredibly important your role in your child's life is.

Keep following your passions in life, what parent couldn't be proud of that?





ButterflyEffect  ·  3987 days ago  ·  link  ·  

First off, thank you, mk, and istara for the support.

    When there is a big moment in her life, whether it be a sad moment or a happy one she will often tear up and say, "I wish my mom were here."

This is something that is very hard to explain to some people, at least for me. I'm still young enough where almost all of my friends still have both of their parents, so saying something like that is completely foreign to them. The response is usually abrupt and uncomfortable, because that's how it makes people feel when they've never had to deal with the death of a parent. I don't know if this is the case with your wife, but even something seemingly insignificant can act as a trigger to that kind of rush of emotions.

istara  ·  3987 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I have those moments all the time. I still break down sometimes when I think about how much she would have adored her grandchildren and how much they are missing out on by never having known her.