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comment by ButterflyEffect
ButterflyEffect  ·  3842 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: How Airbnb and Lyft Finally Got Americans to Trust Each Other

I think the thing with Tinder is that your mileage may vary depending on what kind of a person you are and/or are looking for. Me? I don't go for the "white girls partying and drinking for a bottle" or "any girl with neon anything ever" or "anything purposefully southern/redneck" crowds, and go for what I guess can be described as alternative stylings? And as a person that tries to promote himself as that type of a person it certainly is self-limiting in who you get matched with.

I think I've got like 40 matches in about a month of using it? Something like that, this weekend will be the third girl that I've actually met up with from the site. From girls that I know that use it their problem is the amount of guys that are rude or straight up ask if they want to have sex, which ties back into your points about the chase. But lets be honest, most people just want to have sex and if there's some chemistry there then why not.

    I never knew guys had the same "is this person a secret serial killer" worries as we do!

I HAVE SO MANY WORRIES, YOU HAVE NO IDEA. No, but really.

It sounds like you have found yourself a winner. Unless they aren't actually jokes that he's playing off as jokes about Dexter :P

    It seemed like a really shallow game...

P.S: It's super shallow. I only swipe for people that I find attractive and have interest in common with so maybe that's less shallow. Eh, I think there is potential to make viable connections of it despite that.





blackbootz  ·  3841 days ago  ·  link  ·  

    P.S: It's super shallow. I only swipe for people that I find attractive and have interest in common with so maybe that's less shallow. Eh, I think there is potential to make viable connections of it despite that.

I had Tindr for three days. Granted, this was while I was temporarily working in Iowa, so all the bios included sexy tractors and cowboy hashtags and there was an acronym for only being open to country dudes, I forget what it was exactly. This wasn't or isn't exactly my box of juice, but even though I was messing around, I still got way too "in my own head" about it all. About how shallow and game-able it was, and how the natural restrictions of the app select for things I don't think are good indicators for compatibility. A good display picture, something witty to draw them in. Even though that is pretty much what picking up girls when you go out is all about, looking good and saying something sharp. But good for you! Maybe now that I've moved to a big city, I'll try it again