I use it. At worst it's a good way to kill a few minutes, at best it's a good way to meet some new people.
I know enough friends of mine who use it, it's very popular here with students. One of them is in a relation now with his fist match. Another uses it basically as booty call. On the other hand, one friend of mine took it way too personal and it destroyed his self esteem. I don't use it though.
I don't (yet). I played with my new roomies account though the other night when we were drunk. I swiped all the chubby asians with super macro face shots because that's totally what he likes. I'm looking forward to when he notices. With the amount of work and finals week and stuff in my life, I don't have the time to try to find new boys to play with. I'm good with the the ones I have...plus those relationships barely have to be maintained.
What? No juicy details? I've left this thread so unsatisfied!
Details wasn't the question! I got Tinder a little less than a month ago, used it for a few days and matched with a girl that I thought was cute and had a lot of common interests, mostly music (this combination is somewhat rare). Another plus is that she lives a town away from where I work. She sent me a message the next day, had a good conversation and ended up going out for sushi later that week. We both eat a shit-ton of sushi, have a good time, and she invites me back to her place. This place is like House on Haunted Hill, it's on this weird little side road / hill thing near an elementary school and at this point I'm like "uh...craigslist killer?", but it turned out fine. Went inside, talked some more and watched an episode of Archer. Next thing I know she says "hey" and pulls me in to kiss her (direct - right?), and then we have some fairly crazy sex by my standards. That all went so well that we've been doing the whole friends with benefits thing since then. I haven't had much of a need for Tinder since then but I still use it a bit for fun. I actually have a date with a different girl tomorrow night, should be a good time. Is that juicy enough?
This makes me want to try Tinder. As I mentioned elsewhere, I played with it for the first time on my roommates when we were both pretty drunk. It seemed like a really shallow game, not a way to make viable connections. I am also legitimately surprised that it actually works. Grindr was all the rage when I was living in NYC and surrounded by gay guys. The difference is gay guys are totally okay saying, "I WANT TO FUCK...or give you a bj behind the library...NOW." Girls typically play more coy. I've been talking about girls, sex, coyness, the game and the chase with a couple different friends recently. Guys love sex and want sex and download a Tinder app to try to have NSA sex. However, not playing the chase and catch game is a major turn off for some guys. I noticed my roommate hates it when girls text him "I want to fuck you" or equivalent sexy bluntness. He gets legitimately turned off by it and wants to chase - even after he has already had emotionally/intellectually devoid sexy-times with the person. It's interesting that Tinder has found a way to make it work for the straight demographic. I'm sure they are still struggling with a skewed guy-girl ratio though. I never knew guys had the same "is this person a secret serial killer" worries as we do! The guy I met a few weeks ago has an amazingly odd sense of humor and made Dexter jokes the first time we met. It was sincerely creepy until I realized that they were totally about Dexter. The references weren't super obvious - he picked the smaller details. I got him back by making Overly Attached Girlfriend jokes the second time we hung out though. :P His attempts to not seem concerned were pretty epic. He caught on (thank God - that could've really fucking backfired!) and just texted me a couple hours ago: I'm guilty of doing this too. I get impatient when I've decided I want a guy. It's nice to be kissed, though."uh...craigslist killer?",
Next thing I know she says "hey" and pulls me in to kiss her
I think the thing with Tinder is that your mileage may vary depending on what kind of a person you are and/or are looking for. Me? I don't go for the "white girls partying and drinking for a bottle" or "any girl with neon anything ever" or "anything purposefully southern/redneck" crowds, and go for what I guess can be described as alternative stylings? And as a person that tries to promote himself as that type of a person it certainly is self-limiting in who you get matched with. I think I've got like 40 matches in about a month of using it? Something like that, this weekend will be the third girl that I've actually met up with from the site. From girls that I know that use it their problem is the amount of guys that are rude or straight up ask if they want to have sex, which ties back into your points about the chase. But lets be honest, most people just want to have sex and if there's some chemistry there then why not. I HAVE SO MANY WORRIES, YOU HAVE NO IDEA. No, but really. It sounds like you have found yourself a winner. Unless they aren't actually jokes that he's playing off as jokes about Dexter :P P.S: It's super shallow. I only swipe for people that I find attractive and have interest in common with so maybe that's less shallow. Eh, I think there is potential to make viable connections of it despite that.I never knew guys had the same "is this person a secret serial killer" worries as we do!
It seemed like a really shallow game...
I had Tindr for three days. Granted, this was while I was temporarily working in Iowa, so all the bios included sexy tractors and cowboy hashtags and there was an acronym for only being open to country dudes, I forget what it was exactly. This wasn't or isn't exactly my box of juice, but even though I was messing around, I still got way too "in my own head" about it all. About how shallow and game-able it was, and how the natural restrictions of the app select for things I don't think are good indicators for compatibility. A good display picture, something witty to draw them in. Even though that is pretty much what picking up girls when you go out is all about, looking good and saying something sharp. But good for you! Maybe now that I've moved to a big city, I'll try it againP.S: It's super shallow. I only swipe for people that I find attractive and have interest in common with so maybe that's less shallow. Eh, I think there is potential to make viable connections of it despite that.
I tried it for a few weeks last year and nothing really came of it, so I deleted it. Switched to OKC for a while. I had never thought about the 'trust' implications of Tinder - that's interesting to consider. Have you met a lot of people through it?
I haven't, but as I told b_b, I've only been using it since Monday, so I don't have a lot of experience with the app. I'm actually on both Tinder and OKCupid for the moment, getting more "success" through OKCupid - I use quotes with success because the sole aim of my OKC account is to find people to play tennis with(Footnote) and as a result my profile is extremely sparse and mainly talks about tennis - but I did attempt tennis with a platonic OKC-er last week and I may actually be going on a tennis date this Saturday, if the guy hasn't lost interested and does email me back. I think I'm more inclined to have actual success meeting people through OKC and Tinder this go around than I have been before though, and it's partially due to a trust factor. Then again, I think Hubski may be what has made me slightly more comfortable with meeting people on the internet. Because you all are truly fantastic :) (Footnote)I'm interested in seeing how people handle tennis and if it reveals anything interesting about their character. Also, I'm terrible at traditional first dates and especially those through OKCupid. I get nervous about meeting new people with "date" expectations. It's silly, I know.
I've been on and off OKC for five years. I've never had that kind of resounding success, clearly :) I haven't met anyone I've dated for more than a month or two on it. I'd ask you to tell me your secrets, but apparently they are: 1) log on
2) find wife
3) quit!
What can I say? I live a charmed life ;) Actually, there's just a bit more to the story than that. Last summer I reconnected with an old friend, a friend I had seen a few times since high school, but not kept up with at all. Anyway, we have a mutual friend who invited us both to the bar on a particular night last July. By the end of the evening, I was madly in love, and pretty much decided this was the girl that I was going to marry. Little problem: I was living with a girl at the time, and had been for a few years. We were on the outs, but still, it's not so easy to cut it off just like that. A couple months went by, and finally the last few embers of my then current relationship died out, and I found myself free once again. I hadn't tried to contact my friend since that night, because I didn't want to get friend zoned. Rather, I wasn't at all interested in becoming friends with her. Anyway, September, October and November passed, and I was kinda on a hot streak through that stretch, all the while trying to decide how long is appropriate to wait to try to actually date someone again, as a four year relationship needs some time to get flushed out properly. I was having dinner with a friend of mine, a formerly cool woman turned wife and mother of two, who at times likes to live vicariously through my exploits. She convinced me that I there's a lot of tail on the web, were I only to look. She urged me to get a Match profile, and so that night I went home and created one. On Match, they ask you a bunch of bullshit questions about what you like, what you do, etc. So I went through the whole business, hit submit, and of the (literally) 2500+ matches in my area that they pulled for me, the girl whom I instantly fell in love with back in July was #5. Number. 5. No shit. A 99% match, whateverthefuck that means. Needless to say I was taken aback and quite intrigued. It was apparent to me that now was exactly the right time to call her (when is now ever the wrong time to act?). That was a Thursday night in December. I called her on Saturday afternoon. We went out the next Thursday, a few days before Christmas. We got engaged in the end of February. Fucked up, right? Sometimes, logic need not apply.