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ButterflyEffect  ·  3782 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: September 24, 2014

Just got out of a meeting with a therapist who leads the group session that was recommended to me by the centers intake person.

I went in planning to request one on one appointments but after meeting with him I think I'm going to try this and here's why:

This guy seems to be exactly what I want in terms of a therapist. By which I mean my "ideal" is basically Robin Williams from Good Will Hunting in the sense that he pulled out all sorts of references that resonated with me, and I strongly feel that he's going to challenge me, and maybe I'll challenge him too.

Here goes nothing.





user-inactivated  ·  3782 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Good on ya. Got a meeting with mine this afternoon. Hope it helps.

_refugee_  ·  3782 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I am really really happy that you are taking this step. And you're right - here goes nothing. There's a very good chance this won't hurt you even if it doesn't help you at all.

ButterflyEffect  ·  3782 days ago  ·  link  ·  

We'll see after tomorrow! Two exciting things about tomorrow:

1. First session of therapy, which I'm actually looking forward to.

2. Going to see a movie with a girl and some of her friends. First time in a long I've been interested in somebody beyond just wanting to have sex with them. Only met her last week but I think it will be fine.

thenewgreen  ·  3782 days ago  ·  link  ·  

That's great, nice work! I'm really glad to see that you've followed through with this. The one piece of advice I'd give is to be open to suggestions (which clearly you are) and to be completely and 100% honest with your therapist and with yourself.

insomniasexx  ·  3782 days ago  ·  link  ·  

That's awesome Butterfly! Therapy can be a terrible or wonderful experience. I've found that the times I felt like it was therapy are the times where it never did any good. It should feel like a conversation and a place for you to talk about things you can't talk about. Like a really good non-judgmental friend who actually gives sound advice (with a fat amount of schooling behind that advice). It sounds like what this guy is. That's awesome.

I will tell you that the idea of therapy is much scarier than the therapy itself. I can also tell you that like school, you get as much as you put into it. Low expectations also seem to help. I hope that you are able to get something positive from this experience - even if it doesn't end up being some extreme, life-altering experience.

ButterflyEffect  ·  3782 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Yes, it should be nice. From today it was being described less as an arena for people to share stories and such, unless they want to, and more of an informational and informal meeting.

I have no expectations right now which is likely a good thing.