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_refugee_ · 3644 days ago · link · · parent · post: Ask Hubski: Are you comfortable in your own skin?
When I was growing up my mom forbid all relatives to positively compliment me on my appearance. Negatives, they were okay though.
swedishbadgergirl · 3644 days ago · link ·
Yeah, it's very flawed to be all "I don't want my kid to worry about appearance, so I wont talk about it like a positive feature". I mean, people tell me its caring, but really? Isn't there just a tiny bit of "what doesn't kill you makes you stronger" in there? A tiny, tiny bit that's about thinking that people are "better" if they suffer? I try not to be bitter, I really do.