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steve  ·  3558 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: The power of hush.

muting has always felt kinda harsh. I understand its function as a way to protect one's self from trolling, but as some one who has been muted twice (that I know of), it's super off-putting. I wonder how many users we lose because of what might be a misunderstanding?

As a thought - you might consider having the system automatically make your account unfollow anyone who mutes you. For example. I follow you. I upset you with a comment and you mute me. Before you know it, I've got a feed full of stuff that you post, that I am not allowed to participate in. It's just a weird place to be in. Yes, I could just unfollow the person. Yes, I can reach out to the ignorer in mail and try to sort out the misunderstanding - but in the end, you're unable to participate in the discussion.

just some thoughts.





caelum19  ·  3558 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Huh. I didn't know I could still mail people who've muted me, thanks for that.

One of the biggest posters here muted me ages ago, it was very off-putting indeed. At the time I already felt pretty unwanted in general so I stopped posting for a while before I realised I was being too sensitive and it probably only him who wanted nothing to do with me.

I still follow him because he comments and posts very interesting and thoughful stuff, he's a cool guy, but "You are muted here." popping up everywhere is still a bit weird.

mk  ·  3558 days ago  ·  link  ·  

It's an interesting idea. But I imagine that people might then wonder why they were no longer following someone, and then do so to see the same.

As I see it, mute is a necessary evil. However, if we can all make the effort to hush and/or disengage, we'd be better off for it. It is harmful, and not only to the person being muted. It might be interesting to only have the mute option appear after the user has been hushed.

steve  ·  3558 days ago  ·  link  ·  

a two week "cooling-off" period of being hushed? maybe something like that.

mk  ·  3558 days ago  ·  link  ·  

No, you could hush, then mute immediately. But you'd just have to do the one before the other.

steve  ·  3558 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I was kinda kidding - like a waiting period for a handgun

mk  ·  3558 days ago  ·  link  ·  

:)