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gee  ·  3434 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: 20 years from now what will you have wish you had done?

Im 27. Im a pharmacist, a bad friend, a weekend alcoholic and Im quickly (over the past 5 years) losing touch with my family. I plan to correct these behaviors over the next 5 years (as change doesnt happen instantly) so I dont regret when Im 20: Drink less, if not zero. Use the money I save by not drinking to make trips to see friends -- FAMILY. It started earlier this year -- my combat with alcohol. Im doing better -- and recently just recentered myself on the path of social drinking (limit of 2 drinks), NOT drinking to get drunk. I have surrounded myself with friends who love to drink and enable me to drink -- its hard because these are great, genuine friends who are there when you need them. But, I've got to start telling them no in order for my own self improvement. Relationships -- I need to stop playing games with girls or fucking for sport. Honestly, it was OK in college (not really, hurting people is never OK...), but the games have got to stop. I need to be more open with girls I don't like. and more honest with myself about girls and relationships i do see advancing. Ive been blessed with natural good looks -- I need to wield that influence for good. I want kids - and in order to find an extraordinary mate, then I need to act like a one myself.

Exercise more and mediate more (I saw this in someone elses post and i liked it). I feel so good after doing either. Yoga is awesome. SL 5x5 is awesome (although soon moving to more intermediate. I want to continue to do those activities and develop lifetime habits -- not the yearly cycle.

Future Gee: Grow professionally, grow spiritually, grow to be the best version of you over the next 20. Laugh and have a sense of humor on the things you cant control and apply yourself fully and delicately on the the things you can influence. Love your family more -- make big exceptions for them in your life. Go out of your way to be with them -- another weekend with the friends drinking? or a weekend with your pops on the river -- what will you wish you had done in 20 years?