Jesus H. Christ, I think this whole attitude biggest problem for men who turn to MRA/masculinity-focused self-help: that there's one way of acting and presenting yourself that is successful; and that this particular way is naturally, biologically ingrained in humanity so therefore it must be right. The reason you've experienced pain in relationships is because you aren't physically chiseled, emotionally cold and blunt, stubborn, and salaried enough to please any real (read: traditionalist/conservative) woman (who are creatures governed by "the same fundamental biological impulses, physical traits, electro-chemical reactions, and synaptic firings"). But if you have enough of those things, real women will be irresistibly attracted to you and you'll have them wrapped around your finger. Constant blowjobs after you return from hanging out with your bros every night. Let her experience your alpha status