Your last comment was interesting to me, although not for the purposes of the original thread. I can understand what you are saying in a more formal setting, but let's say, for example, if there is a school science project or even a group of friends deciding where to go for dinner, and nobody is taking initiative or making any executive decisions. Oftentimes if someone makes a decision, people automatically start taking that person's lead and asking them how they want things to go. Do you object to someone making this type of first move?
With school projects, I always just did them if no one else wanted to. I think taking a task that isn't getting done on yourself is a fine thing to do. I never saw it happen when I was in school, but if hypothetically someone took it upon themselves to make other people do the work rather than doing it themselves, then yes, I would have thought less of them. This has never been my experience. I take offense when people start making decisions for me.Oftentimes if someone makes a decision, people automatically start taking that person's lead and asking them how they want things to go