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comment by OftenBen

Fake it. Fake all of it. Imagine how OftenBen+ would handle such a situation. Imagine what a person who is comfortable in such a situation looks like, try to emulate that as much as possible.

All of which would be easier if I didn't sweat like a whore in church at the slightest stress, but it's the best I've got.





oyster  ·  3186 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I do something similar to this because I'm afraid to not live a full life due to a fear of failure. I make very impulsive decisions like moving across the country and then doing it again even though I didn't think either of them through. They ended up being some of the shittiest most worthwhile times in my life so now it's easier to convince myself to do things.

Just have to fake it until it gets easier.

OftenBen  ·  3186 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I'm still waiting on 'It get's easier' personally.

user-inactivated  ·  3186 days ago  ·  link  ·  

It will. You got this, Ben. Keep up the good work.

OftenBen  ·  3186 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Much appreciated TFG.

nowaypablo  ·  3185 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I feel that this is the best answer. It's not so much lying to yourself, more like making a game out of it, say pretending you actually are that confident person doing that confidence-requiring thing.

Humor is an incredible tool. Easily mistakable for confidence :-)

OftenBen  ·  3185 days ago  ·  link  ·  

That's probably my biggest stumbling block of the past year or so. Everything is so gorram serious all the time :[

nowaypablo  ·  3185 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Not if you have something to say about it!

OftenBen  ·  3185 days ago  ·  link  ·  
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_refugee_  ·  3185 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Oh, but OftenBen and I would handle so many situations so very differently :)

OftenBen  ·  3185 days ago  ·  link  ·  

An example of what NOT to do is also an example ;]

_refugee_  ·  3185 days ago  ·  link  ·  

But of course, what works for me might not work for you, and vice versa. I'm not trying to claim knowledge of any "right way."