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comment by goobster

Right... it's all about who you are, and who you can be for someone else.

The bigger narrative around relationships is about "getting". "Getting" married. "Getting" a girl/boyfriend. Etc.

The more powerful way to enter into an engagement with someone else is to BRING you to the party, and offer yourself, rather than take from others.

It is riskier. Rejection can be brutal, when it is your heart on offer.

But the one who sees your offering, and offers theirs in return? THAT's a partnership.





user-inactivated  ·  2769 days ago  ·  link  ·  

This made more sense to me after reading again. To clarify:

    The bigger narrative around relationships is about "getting". "Getting" married. "Getting" a girl/boyfriend. Etc.

    The more powerful way to enter into an engagement with someone else is to BRING you to the party, and offer yourself, rather than take from others.

This in the sense of the opposite being going to the party with intent to "get" or "take" someone way from that space?

I found this insightful and a neat view.

goobster  ·  2769 days ago  ·  link  ·  

    This in the sense of the opposite being going to the party with intent to "get" or "take" someone way from that space?

Yep. You got it.

    I found this insightful and a neat view.

Thank you.