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lil  ·  4425 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Unfriending Someone, Before Facebook - NYTimes.com

At one point in the last century, one of my best female friends dumped me like this: She gathered everything I had ever given her or lent her or left in her apartment (books, clothes, presents). She brought it all to a cafe where I was having coffee with a friend and dumped everything on the table, quite officially and publically unfriending me. I'm happy to say that after 20 years, she is now a best friend again.

I just checked definitions of "friend" and "Facebook friend" on Urban Dictionary. Most of the definitions of "Facebook Friend" include the idea that you generally have no connection with them in real life. - I know this isn't always the case, but I imagine being "unfriended" on FB would have less impact than the cafe dumping above.





thenewgreen  ·  4425 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I think just about anything would have less of an impact than getting everything you ever gave someone dumped on a table in a coffee shop ;-)

    She brought it all to a cafe where I was having coffee with a friend and dumped everything on the table, quite officially and publically unfriending me. I'm happy to say that after 20 years, she is now a best friend again.
-This btw, falls in the category of something women would do but men never would. I realize this sounds sexist, but it's just true. For all of the sensitivities that women are reported to have and men lack, I see far more functionality in male friendships. Maybe just my perspective...?