The change your speaking of has to occur with what you mentioned at the beginning of that comment.
I know exactly what you mean by meeting those who you can immediately tell would be great friends. That's actually how I met my girlfriend. The aurora she gave off was so encapsulating, I had to get to know her. We spent three years as best friends and the most recent three and a half in a relationship. Just put forth a little effort and talk to those whom you'd think would be awesome to talk to as opposed to the shelled person. Then, work your way up to breaking some shells.But it takes too much time and way too much effort.
If everyone had that mentality, no one would think the thoughts leading them to dream.
When you order a drink, take a first sip and immediately want to spit it out: do you sit there and keeping drinking it, hoping that in the end you will actually like it? Don't you think that a person who has imposed himself in a shell is already corrupted by it and the chance is higher that you won't like him as himself when you finally get to him?
I dream all sort of things all the time, thanks to a long imposure of books, movies, history and video games. And I have friends to talk those things over with. But it's harder to find a real person or to break someone's shell to see what's actually inside of him. My point is: I don't want to waste time digging into someone, who's dreams right now are about a flashy car to impress his friends. I might not even like what's in the end. And now I have to go and spend the same time on someone else? I'd rather go look for someone who's already real, who already has a higher chance of me liking his/her personality. Even if I won't I'm most certainly going to have a very interesting conversation.
As a matter of fact, I do. I'll have the drink a few more times in order to finalize an opinion that I know I can stand behind. For example, every time I even have a sip of Jim Beam, I want to vomit. I've tried it multiple times, and have concluded I really don't Jim Beam. But deep down in that person who is getting that flashy car is someone who is very insecure and in need of someone to care about them.