If it's not detrimental, and especially if you find it beneficial, then of course it's worth it. But your friend may be right as well. He may have found that thinking too much about thinking is detrimental to his well being or that it's frivolous.
He may have found that thinking too much about thinking is detrimental to his well being or that it's frivolous.
And that's something I don't know I can understand. Perhaps I just haven't thought enough about thinking to find it detrimental?
No, just acknowledge that everyone is different; perhaps far more different than you had previously considered. To the point that over-thinking things is actually detrimental to many people. I identify more with your way of things in that I enjoy thinking about pretty much everything. But it's been a somewhat painful road to realize that everyone is different.
acknowledge that everyone is different; perhaps far more different than you had previously considered.
I suppose that is what's going on here. I do try to recognize the differences in everyone, but I do often times feel so convinced of something that I can't see how anyone else could possibly think any differently. With time I suppose that'll change.
Yeah I struggle with the same thing. But at the end of the day, I generally find my relationships much more rewarded by me taking a person at his or her word. A person's ideals are informed by their experiences and by being overly-critical of their views I'm actually calling in to question their experiences which is really bad. It's a fine line to walk sometimes, especially with true friends you care about. So yeah, once I feel like the healthy amount of debate has run its course, I'm left with the decision to think that either they're mentally deficient, or just trust their experiences.
A person's ideals are informed by their experiences and by being overly-critical of their views I'm actually calling in to question their experiences
That puts very well what has been going on with one my roommates and myself lately. I can definitely be over critical of his views (mainly because it feels as if our fundamental views are stark opposites). I hadn't realized though that he could be offended by this and view it as discrediting his experiences. Thanks for shedding light on the situation.