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Owl  ·  4406 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Did Porn Warp Me Forever?

    (but c’mon, who would look at pictures when there are videos?)

I do... Then again, I'm a bit of a special case. I try to stay away from porn videos because every time I watch a video, I always end up thinking: Who are their parents? Would they have wanted them to do that? What caused them to do this? Do they really enjoy doing what they do? Do they enjoy being known by millions of people for this, while millions of other people hate them and their profession as something artless and disgusting (And a lot of it is artless)? In short, I cannot live with myself knowing I might have watched someone being exploited and demeaned (unless of course that person enjoys that).

It's funny; People often like to mock hentai and doujins, a kind of erotic manga made by small or not so small groups/artists, for being extreme and bizarre, but the good majority of it is quite tame, the normal stuff being tamer than most normal porn. Since it's fictional, the characters are oftentimes more affectionate towards one another than the two (or more) actors in porn videos who are paid to get on stage and fuck. Of course, since it's fictional, you can also get really depraved stuff, and because the nature of the Internet amplifies the extremes, most of the time that's all you ever see if you just skim around.

But no one is harmed in the making of these works of erotica, no one is exploited or used, and many of the artists doing these works are quite talented in their own right, some having a complete mastery over anatomy (And others mess with it for the purpose of making appealing characters, which takes talent to pull off well), lighting, scenery, and color (For the few that do full color works): all of the essentials that a good artist was expected to master a couple of centuries ago (I don't know how modern art is, given that all I see of modern art is conceptual pieces). I personally find this kind of porn much more ethical, or rather, I feel a lot better viewing this kind of porn.

Anyways, Me, personally, I like to limit myself. I perhaps view porn one day, and perhaps skip the next day or two, and then watch porn the next day, and then skip a few days. I do this as a means to make things more pleasurable and to avoid things like what the author goes through.





teenagewangst  ·  4406 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Sometimes I think the ease at which finding videos or scenes to fit my mood actually makes it more difficult for me now to successfully construct fantasies myself. This could also be a facet of my orientation (or a few other reasons), but it's something that I've tried to take steps and change - i.e. viewing videos intentionally posted by users, looking at pictures and trying to imagine things in my mind. (I hope it is something that can change). It also relates to the aspect of the videos that you discuss, in the sense that amateur videos theoretically are done intentionally and that they are hopefully actually enjoying it and wanting the attention. Of course, there are plenty of people who might view that opinion negatively, and I don't know if I can blame them - issues of pornography seem to be something that is more of a recent phenomenon, although it's not like the sexual history of mankind has been "vanilla." Nowadays it's not a desire that I have so frequently - it's as much a product of being home alone and have the opportunity.

I'm a bit weird in these ways. The physicality and psychology of sexual attraction is interesting to me, probably because I'm trying to figure out how or why I am what I am.