I'm nervous about becoming a father, and the idea scares me a bit, but I'm okay with it at this point in my life. My wife REALLY wants a kid and made it clear pretty early on that she wanted kids and if I didn't want one I should get the hell out then. I think it will be fun. Not looking forward to the loss of personal time and whatnot though. :)
If I may chime in - I'm a selfish fella, at least in regards to my personal time. I lost a LOT of it when my daughter was born but I've somehow found ways to get most of it back. I waste less time and I get by on about 2 hours less sleep than I used to. But the craziest thing is how much more efficient I am with time. I never realized the full opportunity cost of my time before. I watch about 1/8th of the movies I used to, I watch about 1/4 of the TV series I used too. You prioritize. I still make a ton of music, spend a ton of time on Hubski and I'm creative in ways I've not been since I was a kid. -playing is F-U-N. You'll dig it. You'll be amazed at where you find the time. There's no doubt that your life is going to change forever, but truly it is a good change, if you're ready for it. Based on what I've learned about you via our conversations here I'd wager you are. Good luck to you!
That's good to hear, and it honestly makes a lot of sense. Never really thought of it that way. It's funny, because I was just talking here on hubski about going to school FT and working FT for a couple years of my life, and how I had like zero free time. But the time I did have became so special and so much more "worth it". I made the comment that an evening off drinking a couple beers and watching a movie might has well have been a week long vacation. Thanks for bringing this up. It's reassuring. I like to think I'm a patient person, and go with the flow well. I'm not really afraid of the horror stories of sleepless nights and losing your head. I'm pretty good in that department. It's just the unknown of being a parent that makes me nervous too. I guess I won't know what it's really like til I'm there. But I'm sure I'll deal, which is why I'm on board. I'll probably be looking for more parenting advice in the future! Thanks,But the craziest thing is how much more efficient I am with time.
Based on what I've learned about you via our conversations here I'd wager you are.
You're a driven dude so you will naturally want to be good at it. -That's great. Keep that.I'll probably be looking for more parenting advice in the future!
-Ask away. There are a number of us recent fathers on Hubski that would be glad to help as well as a number of ma's. The "unknowns" pretty much all come naturally and the ones that don't, don't for everyone. It's not that it's super easy, it's more that it's not difficult in the ways you might assume.