you too tng! I also blame myself, but I give myself a million reasons why I wasn't able to do it (e.g. I just couldn't handle it, I was disorganized, etc.)
I would never say I "blame" myself. I just hold myself accountable for the things in my life that are in my control. These things tend to be far more abundant than people seem to think. We have a LOT of control over most things on life. Most notably, how we react or feel about things.
That's a very helpful point for me at the moment, so thanks. It often feels like the emotion of, say, sadness or pain or even just gloom is inflicted upon me, not that I myself am the source that is projecting it all outwards from myself. intuitively you'd think emotion would be as easy to squash as it so easily manifests.