I know you've got a lot of things on your mind, but the deadline isn't till tomorrow anyway, so just have your wife fax the car to the laundry and you'll shoot the email once you take a nap cant you see I'm eating fuck off I said I'll do it ugh I'm so tired I'll just take a nap oh it's too late now look it wasn't important anyway-- Hubski. Listen to yourself.
You have interests, some of them have budded into full-blown desires, and you've got enough motivation to launch a space shuttle but you're not following through. You're just not there, you skimped or slacked or took a week off the program you told all your friends you started, now you feel like you already failed so you're just gonna drop it...
Okay, maybe that whole thing was just me. But, I know you've got excuses too. So tell me about them. Hubski, what's your excuse? What is keeping you from doing and being and and checking off the list, from winning and taking and letting go and leaving? Is it a cloudy feeling a couple hours in, a busy schedule, a totally viable reason or an unshakable distraction? Are you completely unaware what's stopping you? Maybe you've got the feeling that you know, but you haven't really been honest with yourself?
Maybe you don't have an excuse, you don't need one.. Hell, you're doing fine! Either way or neither way, let's hear it.
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im here with you man, ive been swinging in and out of periods of what i guess is depression, which paralyzes me and eventually cost me some valuable relationships. take care friend, things will clear up for us
:) Thanks, not-Pablo. In the time you've been gone I've gone crazy and ramped up my writing...editing...submitting...The whole 9 yards. Great news, it has started to pay off and I've gotten two poems accepted for publication recently, one in an international (UK) journal, so that's pretty cool! I'll put them up when they go live on the intarwebs. But of course I'm not perfect and there are other areas of my life where I fail to achieve! I don't exercise enough. I guess my excuses there are...laziness...it's dark outside (not really a valid excuse any more, it's so bright for so long!)...other plans. Well, great news! I recently got dumped(ish) and now I have a lot more spare time. I'm resolved to start exercising every day now. I'll let you know how it goes! (read: I'll let you know if it goes well ;) ). I'm going to make it happen. grits teeth I will finally use that gym membership! I'm going to do it this week! (But...but not today...because I didn't pack my bag...BUT I'M GOING TO GO FOR A WALK, DAMN IT!)
ref, congrats on the work youre doing. Hearing you break ground in your passions makes me feel more courageous about pursuing my own, somewhat similar hobbies (I found a cute little journal in an indie book store in new york, Im using it as my rule-free, judgement-free abyss of expression to motivate writing and center my thoughts). Believe it or not, fitness is half the reason I made this post. I'm busting ass staying on top of my game on the off season from my wrestling team-- Im no jock by any means, but god damn does looking good feel good-- but I'm having trouble really giving it my all in the program i've committed to. Hubski workout session? #hubskinyc. anyway, best of luck again and remember that shit feeling you get when you skipped a workout or a run, use it as motivation to make stuff happen.
I tend to not ever make excuses. Don't get me wrong, I fail like everyone else but I own my failures and successes. I don't blame them on circumstance. Edit: good to see ya Pablo.
You say that like its a bad thing; youve got a story to last the ages :D
you too tng! I also blame myself, but I give myself a million reasons why I wasn't able to do it (e.g. I just couldn't handle it, I was disorganized, etc.)
I would never say I "blame" myself. I just hold myself accountable for the things in my life that are in my control. These things tend to be far more abundant than people seem to think. We have a LOT of control over most things on life. Most notably, how we react or feel about things.
That's a very helpful point for me at the moment, so thanks. It often feels like the emotion of, say, sadness or pain or even just gloom is inflicted upon me, not that I myself am the source that is projecting it all outwards from myself. intuitively you'd think emotion would be as easy to squash as it so easily manifests.
The excuses vary, but they are all bad. If I don't follow through, it's because I didn't want to follow through. For me, wanting means willing and able. Everything else prevents me from knowing myself. If there's something you feel that you wanted to do, but didn't, try restating it with 'wish' instead of 'want'. It's rough.
I know what you're saying, and its what keeps me from freaking out and being angry/sad when I don't follow through. However- and this is kind of what got me posting this thread- I have the irking feeling that I am lying to myself when I decide "eh, I don't want this." I might hate the process and all of a sudden I'm justifying the failure, from acheiving something incredible, by saying I didnt want it anyway-- when in reality, I just didn't want to suck it up and work.
I ask myself, "Is the time and energy spent worth the end result?" If the answer is "yes," I get it done. If not, I'll drop it. I don't allow myself to have excuses, similar to thenewgreen. But I'll slip up from time to time.
What I would do to see an artist's interpretation of a gay dance party...
Just a bunch of people dancing for the most part, but hey pretty much sets them apart from a straight one where the majority just kinda stand in one place and weave back and forth. More of the guys would have their feet off the ground or their hands above their shoulders.
I've been there. Good luck friend, check the cupboard
I lack motivation to do things that i know are good and important for me. Even if they're things i'll enjoy or things that will be fulfilling on some level, i put them off thinking "eh, i can do that whenever. it's not that big of a deal." And i say that whether it's something simple like reading a good article or something important like writing a cover letter for job applications. Just a general lack of care for most things that i try (without success) to convince myself is harmless. Reminds me of this pretty cool article my friend wrote a few months back that you might enjoy reading.
The days when I suffer from a heavy amount of sadness and life-anxiety usually kill me for a few days. Today's one of those days. Other excuse is my hesitancy to spend money on things, which is slowly improving now that I'm making more money. Good to see you making a post, Pablo.
thats tough:/ i wish that feeling could be sourced before it comes on, and killed or at least prevented in the future. its like you gotta wait to feel shitty and put things on hold before you decide to do things that make you feel better
"It depends." Can vary from "Just a two line fix, I'll get it done tomorrow" to "too much manual work, but I can finish it near instantly with a script, so I'll get it done tomorrow". Most recent would be "Why bother translating it if there isn't any new footage", in relation to an anime season I was subbing.
All of a sudden it piles up and youve got so much to do you cant even start :D
Have you ever done something that, as far as you know, nobody has done better (or at all)?
One of my medium term goals is to solve all of the worlds problems.
As I don't think anyone else will try this, looks like I'll do the best by default. My excuse: if it was easy then someone else would already have done it.
brilliant:D thats an interesting way of looking at it; your large goal has a million successes that lead up to it.. they may not be as substantial as your big objective but they are still very much successes.
Interesting, would it be possible to combine those two issues by having a really cool long-term success that you can subsequently achieve numerous little things to get to?
Yeah, that would be somewhat of a solution. However, I am also the stereotypical person in his early twenties with no direction. The current vague desire that I'm meandering towards is being a Lecturer. I'm currently apply for a Masters which would set me in that direction. I guess higher education is a bit like your suggestion, with the individual modules being the little goals and the actual degree being the long-term success. Though only a year long one in the case of Masters, unless I then go on to PHD level, which is common for lecturers.
To be honest with you that sounds like a pretty big deal to me :D Getting a graduate degree is a pretty important step, and it can range in intense cost/demand to achieve. Good luck with it all friend, I'll be waiting for your name on the headline of TED.
I mean, it's entirely possible I have one that doesn't come to mind or that I'm unaware of!
I was just kidding friend, I'm aiming for the one or two people who really need a self-reflecting catharsis right now, we'll see if they pop up