I once went to a concert with my future wife to see Rufus Wainwright. Upon walking in I saw my ex-girlfriend and her date. I wasn't yet over that relationship even though I was starting a very important new one. During the concert I enjoyed the company of my future wife very much and was glad that it was her at the show with me. That said, I had listened to Rufus's album Poses many times with my ex. In fact, for a good while we had sex to it regularly. Those songs were charged with emotion. It was a confusing show. What made me buy those tickets? What made my ex buy those tickets? Was it both our way of saying "I'm over this?" Well, regardless of the "why" I ended up crying during Poses, the song.
Sex to Rufus Wainwright? Damn, dude. That's intense. I would feel so incredible uncomfortable in the situation you just described. That'd make an excellent #askhubski question, don't you think? "What was your way of saying 'I'm over this?'" for...anything really.What made me buy those tickets? What made my ex buy those tickets? Was it both our way of saying "I'm over this?"
After spending 5 formative years with someone, can you ever really be "over" them? They've become a part of you forever, no?
I...don't know. My longest relationship is a little less than half that amount of time, and I don't think enough time has passed for me to have a good answer to that question.After spending 5 formative years with someone, can you ever really be "over" them? They've become a part of you forever, no?