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comment by 3rnest
You know what? You're right. I was writing from a position of emotion and cannot back up my claims. My apologies, this topic is very relevant to me and for reasons I'd rather not get in to. From a numbers perspective, women definitely get custody more often than men, but then I think that has a LOT to do with the fact that they actively seek it more often than men.




Saydrah  ·  4675 days ago  ·  link  ·  
Wow, thank you for being so civil and thoughtful! This conversation would only ever happen so calmly on Hubski. (I was equally amazed when I realized I'd debated abortion twice with thenewgreen without a single digital equivalent of a raised voice.) I understand the anecdotal/emotional perspective. There are a lot of bad judges out there. Even if on the grander scale the system works fairly well, it's hard to ignore that there's really not much you can do if you happen to run into an instance of bias. I'm really huge on fatherhood myself, honestly. I'm not even sure I want kids, but if you want to melt me into a goopy puddle of formerly-Saydrah sludge, just show me a dad with his toddler daughter riding around on his shoulders. I'm watching my niece grow up with an absent father, and as great a kid as she is, it's hard on her. I like to think there are ways to make sure that fatherhood gets its due without the attacks on women that often come from the MRA side, and I think a lot of self-identified MRAs are working on exactly that.
thenewgreen  ·  4674 days ago  ·  link  ·  
Hey, thanks for the shout-out. I've enjoyed our discourse on said topic. I hold no cemented view when it comes to woman's reproductive rights. Why? Because I'm still learning about all the variables and facets that comprise this extremely complicated subject. I really appreciate your insight though Saydrah, it's been great for me. Cheers!
3rnest  ·  4675 days ago  ·  link  ·  
No problem. This is the last I want to discuss this topic though, it is too close to home. I think we'd find that we agree more than we disagree. I wish you and your niece well.
Laurelai  ·  4674 days ago  ·  link  ·  
I just want to say that it is awesome of you to be rational like this. I know how hard it can be to keep your cool about something you care about personally.