Original title: in which galen gets into a fight with an unreasonable jerk.
Jerk was not my first-choice descriptor.
So the other day I was talking with my friend about maybe having a rave so we could DJ together before I leave for college. The possibility of substances came up, and we talked about maybe having weed and LSD. Eventually, we decided the rave couldn't happen because it would be a logistical nightmare.
Then this morning, I get a text from a classmate: "If you have a rave Im telling anyone I can. Like the cops, the principals, my parents, Colgate admissions people"
My first reaction is okay, whatever, not happening anyway. Dick move though. But he reveals that his motivation is that his cousin OD'd on heroin. This leads to an argument about the impacts of various drugs in which he staunchly refuses to admit the possibility than any drug is not physically addictive.
Eventually he gets more defensive and describes my opinion as a "fantasy world," in the process also dredging up and misrepresenting my position when we argued about riots last week. (He interpreted "a riot is the language of the unheard" to mean "riots get things done".)
Fine, whatever. Still doesn't matter. But he gets more and more worked up. Then:
- Don't try to convince people I care about to use drugs.
- Since when was I trying to convince people to use drugs? Making something available =/= convincing someone to take advantage of it.
- Oh right. You were perfectly fine with people showing up to a rave and NOT use drugs and you weren't going to pressure them or call them lame in any way
- Um, yeah. Exactly. Don't infer my motivations, dick
At this point he said he hoped I OD'd on something. Then he threatened to tell my ex I was still into her.
Motherfucker.
Thoughts: You had a conversation about an imaginary thing that wouldn't happen. You get a text from a classmate talking to you about said rave and that he'll tell everyone about it. Dick move, sure. He reveals his motivation. Oh, okay. STOP. Why, galen? Why do you do this to yourself? I don't get this shit. I guess maybe it's a highschool thing that I missed out on? You are only able to control your own actions, and you didn't have to engage, but you did. When you engage, you give that person a power that they don't need or deserve to have. Do you know this guy very well? Is he even in your C-tier list of friends? If the answer to either of those questions is "no", then you done fucked up by giving him the time of day. Like obviously this dude's an asshole, but still.This leads to an argument
I'm going to compile a series, "8bit mentors galen", there's been a fair bit of great advice dished out. I'm in a huge hurry, but my favorite was something like "fuck galen don't even talk to them give me something hard damn".
I makes me unreasonably happy that galen is like our collective child. Don't make the same mistakes we did galen.
I honestly don't know why it turned into a fight. I agree with 8bit, it really should have stopped before then. Of course, I don't know either side of the conversation, but if he was being a dick and provoking an argument, you could have been the better man and not cooperate. If you were being a dick and provoking a fight, then... well, don't. All that said, his reaction at the very end was immature.
You can't get in any trouble for having a discussion with a friend about how it would be cool to have drugs at a party. Because dude, that's all you did. You had a conversation, and then decided not to have a party, and not to try and find or give anyone any drugs. Let them investigate this all they want. You cannot get in trouble for discussing an option which you not only did not follow up on but consciously decided not to execute upon.
The less you give a fuck the better off you'll be in this situation. If you have to face your ex just honestly acknowledge that you have feelings and leave it at that. Just because you have feelings for an ex doesn't mean you need a bunch if drama, It's a natural way to feel. If you have to face the administration over your rave plan admit nothing. If they pressure you tell them these sound like serious allagations and it would be foolish of you discuss anything like this without an attorney. Ask them what it was that you did? Ask them if that will be all, tell then you want your parents there before they make more insane allegations against you.
Look The way I see it there are four scenarios that could occur now: 1. He tells ex you like her, she still likes you, you end up back together (before breaking up later because don't date your ex twice, man) 2. He tells ex you like her, she doesn't like you, you both avoid talking about this because it's awkward, so whatever. 3. He tells ex you like her, you completely disregard anything that happens next because you're going to college in like three months and will be SURROUNDED by 9s and 10s everywhere all the time AND FOUR: He tells ex you like her, you make it a WAY bigger deal than it needs to be, try to explain to her the whole deal, get super awkward, probably stumble over your words, wish you were never born, crawl back into bed and never get out of it because the G-forces of cringe will keep you pined there.
