I had been married for ten years until this past week when my wife and I decided that we just weren't meant to be married any longer. It's very amicable so far (fingers crossed) and we're just going to split everything down the middle and move on.
So with that out of the way, I have a strong and well proven belief that the best way to get over an old girlfriend is to get under a new one and my friend told me about Tinder. Actually first he told me I should check out Grinder and laughed at me.
So I just wanted to mention that when I stopped dating it was 2004. I didn't even have a cell phone and apps sure as hell weren't a thing. Fast forward to today and I can not believe that Tinder is a thing. It is extremely superficial but it is such an ego trip to get a match.
What else has changed since I left?
I am glad to be married but I do wish that such innovations existed when I was single. It sounds like fun. I'm sorry to hear you are splitting up, because that is never easy or fun. But... I'm glad to hear that it is amicable. Do you guys have kids? I would use tinder for fun and if you want something more substantive, maybe one of the dating sights. Good luck.
I've never been one for casual sex but that was 10 years and a lifetime ago so who knows? Either way, Tinder just seemed like a confidence boost which is what I need right now. The divorce isn't really a problem. You know how when people have a relative dying from cancer for years and they're more relieved that it's done than sad? That's me right now. We just fell out of love and didn't fall back. We do have a son so I'm worried about how much Child Support will cost because it's not like I'll be making any more money because of the divorce but I will have a delightful new bill.
Great post! Online dating in general sometimes unfairly gets a bad wrap, but most people don't realize that over 40% of new relationships world-wide are started ONLINE! There are a lot of good paid sites, and a few great free ones if you know where to look. For those who are more interested in Asian singles, the best truly free site we've found is www.Filipino4U.com There are also some good paid sites like Match or eHarmony if you are willing to pay monthly fees.
I'm sorry to hear that you are going through a divorce right now. Just get through it, don't push yourself too hard to 'connect' with someone, just out of lonliness. That being said, when you are really ready to date, I would suggest something online. After my divorce, a move out of town, and about a year to simmer and be awkward - I tried online dating. Try the different sites out, and see which one(s) fit what you are looking for. The best advice I can give to you about online dating is to: 1) Consider it to be like an interview ( Is this woman crazy? How many children does she have? e.t.c. ) 2) Go grab coffee/lunch - not dinner ( dinner is for second meetings ) ASAP - it may feel like there is some 'chemistry' on chats and texts - many will flop when you meet them and try to actually talk with them. ( Remember, this is like an interview for the first few meetings ) 3) Have fun - I considered it a relatively inexpensive way to meet new people and get out of the house, where I would have been just being a home-body otherwise. I hope your pain is short, and that your darkest days are already in your past... BTW - I met my fiancee on Tinder, of all places. I was tired of all of the forms and crafting messages to interest her. I was not into hookups - I had just heard of that app mentioned on many different talk shows and such... You find what you are looking for. Good luck, brother.
I don't date, and watching my friends go through this nonsense really freaks me out. We joke, well, mostly joke, that when they go on dates that we need to know where they are and to post updates so that if their "hookup" knocks them out and throws them in a trunk we can find them. I'm so glad that I am not in my 20's right now.
The number of people on Tinder is insane! I just moved to the middle of nowhere (population: me and a dog), and opened Tinder and it was full of people!
Maybe the cows are signing up, or something? I didn't look too closely because it would be sort of embarrassing to swipe right on the postman.
:) My cousins had a vacation cottage here which I loved as a kid.
This February, after two and a half years (a LOOONG time in film-editing terms) on a gruelling job in London I upped and quit.
I booked an air bnb on the bus on the way home, shoved the dog in the car, and drove to France.
Six months later, and I've sold my place in London and bought a (dream) house out here.
OOOOPS
I've seen people I know from classes and work already. Which is fun, but that's not something I'm going to pursue, or maybe I will? Who knows? The world is full of fun ways to mess up. It is nice that Tinder shows you if that person has a connection with any of your friends on Facebook though, because there have been people that I might have swiped right on because I don't want to deal with the 'you're cheating on your wife with my friend!' because no one knows about my divorce but Hubski so far.
I've been off the market for a few years, but my friend uses Coffee meets bagel. Good luck to you! Sounds like your doing all the right things and staying pretty positive.