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TheVenerableCain  ·  3393 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Do you guys ever wonder how others TRULY perceive the world?

    Most people who meet me think I'm intimidating, unapproachable, apathetic, incapable of emotion or compassion, and just plain socially weird. It's very rare I meet someone who pays attention long enough to realize I am way much more than that. This is one of the reasons I tend to come across better online than in person.

My life exactly! I don't mind. I'd rather it be this way than have a wide circle of half-friends. People that don't look deeper kind of weed themselves out of my life, so in the long run, I'm saving time and energy! People that gravitate toward me out in the world seem to be smarter and more curious than your average bear (and bears are very curious.)

The only issue I've come across is in the "corporate world" or whatever. Bosses see me as "slow moving" or "not getting anything done" because I don't go to them and wave my accomplishments in their face. I do my work quietly and efficiently. When it's done, it's done. Project complete. Next task, please. I'm not here to beg for recognition, I'm here to get X done and you give me Y dollars. Too bad managers don't care about that. It's who can fellate them the most and pretend like they're actually doing something.

Not sure how I come across on the internet. I think (hope) I'm well-received. I tend to get all ramble-y because I'm bad at explaining things succinctly, but I find the written word a much easier form to communicate in, because I can go back and check my stupidity before I unleash it on the world.





user-inactivated  ·  3392 days ago  ·  link  ·  

You and I have a lot in common. Thank you. =) Been looking for work for a while, and so many Craigslist ads say, "must be a people person" or "must play well with others" or "must be a team player" and so on. Which really means: we don't care if you're intelligent, competent, if you get the job done; all we care about is that you always have a smile on your face, always up for small talk, and always have fun at our get togethers.

Meanwhile, the quiet, hard working person gets looked at weirdly, and treated like they don't know how to do their job, what's wrong with that person? Never mind they're more competent, more driven, get more done, all the while asking for no recognition, no praise, a job well done is their reward.

This society sucks sometimes.