1) you started off making a judgment about my viewpoint, dismissing what I'd I said with the label "pessimistic". May not have been your intention, but the words told a different story. 2) "500 facebook friends" You and I have a different definition of friendship. 3) "I don't bother them with the specifics of my problems", i.e., you are controlling what these others see on your surface. Which is exactly what I said in my original comment. 4) You're living in a happy bubble. Meaning, from what you said, if I take your word for it, you seem to be relatively emotional stable, no problems with depression, and you thus gravitate towards and attract other people like you. That is your world. Consider that by living in that bubble, you are making assumptions about the general human experience. Meaning, anyone with depression, anyone with poor social skills, they must be doing it wrong. No. Life is different for everyone. Try going to adult support groups for people with disabilities, and hearing the stories of people no matter how hard they try, they're always ostracized, always judged, and because of this their unhappiness is greater than yours. Everyone's pain is relative. This comment thread might've gone differently if you'd phrased your initial comment differently. So, this comment of mine, I don't mean it argumentatively, not picking a fight, but answering your question honestly, and hopefully we both can take something from this exchange. Also, I'm severely PMSing.
1) I honestly don't remember what exactly in your comment struck me as pessimistic but sorry if I made this assumption unnecessarily 2) I was not claiming that the 500 people on my facebook are friends, I can count my friend on my fingers. You said in your previous comment something like " everyone looks happy on the surface" and I meant to ask what exactly do you consider the "surface". It was my awkward way of saying that yes, if the surface is facebook, my life does seem like all I do is go on vacation and always have a great time. 3) My original point is that I do share my problems with those close to me, but maybe not the very boring and specific details not with the intention of being controlling or drawing a facade but because it's just plain uninteresting and even I don't really want to talk about it much. 4) I do live in a very happy bubble. I know that many people have problems such as depression, poor social skills and such things (I actually spend an unhealthy amount of time reading about these people but that's besides the point). But admittedly I've never experienced that sort of pain. I have felt sad and had bad periods in my life, but nothing really drastic. My assumption (or rather my hope) is that while there are many of these people, they are in the minority. And like you said, pain is relative so while someone might feel unfulfilled at work, that person might be happy in other areas of their life. Thanks for taking the time to write this answer, honestly :)