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b_b  ·  4600 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Could teenagers be stopped from looking at porn?
Anyway, where's the evidence that watching porn is bad for you? Some of the biggest perverts I knew growing up have awesome jobs and stable families now that they're adults. Hell, I have a doctorate in biophysics and I watched porn like it was going out of style. Maybe its because we had to watch porn on VHS. We only had regular, Christian porn, none of this new fancy get-whatever-you-can-dream-up-on-demand internet porn; I'm sure that would have really messed us up. If I were a parent, I would just pretend I didn't know what was going on when my kid started shutting his bedroom door every time (s)he logged on to the computer.




newgameplus  ·  4600 days ago  ·  link  ·  
Watching porn isn't bad for you, but porn addiction is. There's now mounting evidence about how internet porn is especially conducive to creating addiction, and how the negative effects are much greater than the pre-internet days. Here's a TED talk about it. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zif0_60b3WU

That being said, the speaker in that video talks as if the studied levels of addiction are an epidemic. That I'm not so sure of.

b_b  ·  4600 days ago  ·  link  ·  
Alcohol addiction is bad, too. I don't want anyone interfering with my access to alcohol, either. But I suppose if its a huge public health issue, that's when the gov't gets involved.
insomniasexx  ·  4600 days ago  ·  link  ·  
I think watching porn to a certain extent is fine. But it can get really extreme really fast.

I hooked up with this guy on and off when I first got to university. I loved hooking up with him because he was sexually confident and actually knew where certain areas on my body were. But it took him forever to get off. The first couple times I blamed it on the alcohol/weed/late night. Then, I was kind of hurt that he wasn't getting off to me. I was like "I'm fucking sexy. I'm riding your cock. WHAT GIVES?!"

So I asked him, when we were both extremely intoxicated. And he opened right up. Fucking alcohol. The shit that he wanted...an 18 year old guy...blew me away. Every single fetish. He wanted to be choked, he wanted a dildo up his butt, he wanted to watch me pee, and for me to pee on his face. I asked him how he even found out he was into this stuff and he said he watched a lot of fucking porn and knows what he likes.

Even this isn't necessarily bad for you. But if you can't get off anymore from regular old sex at 18, where is your sexual life and relationships going to go? What is he going to need to get off in 5 years or 10 years or 20 years? I think this is the danger. Exploring your sexuality as you grow up is good and I think porn does help you do that. When I have kids, I will look the other way. But I won't let them sit in their room for hours and hours doing who knows what. Explore your sexuality and then get out of the house and do something.

steve  ·  4600 days ago  ·  link  ·  
I'm starting to realize that my sexual fantasies are tame - and perhaps even boring.
b_b  ·  4600 days ago  ·  link  ·  
Me too. My main one is her putting her clothes on and leaving after without me having to act like I don't want her there.
steve  ·  4600 days ago  ·  link  ·  
As an old married man... I'm happy if the clothes come off in the first place. ZING!
b_b  ·  4600 days ago  ·  link  ·  
You have me laughing like an idiot in my office. I hope no one pops in to see what's so funny. That said, if you're 18 an you can't get off to slightly rubbing up against a couch cushion then you're in for a life of disappointment when you're 30.
thenewgreen  ·  4600 days ago  ·  link  ·  
I remember that couch cushion.
newgameplus  ·  4600 days ago  ·  link  ·  
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