Fantastic post lil. It makes me very angry inside when I hear that there are good people out there that are afraid to be themselves because of archaic and static notions of gender. I think it makes me upset because I know how amazing it feels to find yourself and for society to accept you for who you are. To take that experience away from someone is tragic and unacceptable. For me personally, I don't feel like I have to live a double life. But I think we all play different characters with different people. I am not the exact same person around my mom as I am with a professor, or a best friend, or a girl friend. We all play different roles. But I don't think that makes me a different person. They are different versions of me. And they all collectively make me who I am.
You're right, we are not exactly the same person with different people. Relationships have their own habits, language, protocol, expectations, and activities. I know, however, that I had so many secrets in previous relationships -- I was so inconsistently my "self" -- that I had to "move over" and become "Selinda." In that case, moving over meant moving 3000 miles. Maybe it's a girl thing. I wonder what insomniasexx would say about double lives.
Wait..why?! Do you think I lead a double life?! Why the fuck would you think that?!!!?? I'm a totally sweet girl 24/7. :P I'm going to think about it and comment further tomorrow. It's an interesting topic and I definitely have something to say, I just have to figure out how to put it into words.Maybe it's a girl thing. I wonder what insomniasexx would say about double lives.
Wait..why?! Do you think I lead a double life?!
Why? Because you're a female (as far as I can tell.) I had a conversation on this topic tonight with someone who suggested that girls more readily change themselves to please boys, thus getting farther and father away from their own preferences/identity, but boys might do this too. I don't know.