You keep saying "don't date" and then follow up with a description of the exact type of person I'm looking for in life. I'm looking for someone who will pull me out of my little bunker and help me live life to the fullest. I have those urges but am to scared/confined to act on them. I'd love more than anything to meet someone that pulls me out and drags me along. To go on adventures. Sounds great. You've pretty much described my dream girl and then said "don't date them". Yet, you don't provide any reasons. Fuck that. Whose to say that I don't want that stuff as well? I'll do what I want.
It might be more correct to say "the author" instead of "you;" I don't think theadvancedapes wrote this post.
You have to be careful though. If you look for a girl who's going to help "pull you out of your bunker", you risk falling into the trap of the "Manic Pixie Dream Girl." Every person who is scared, confined, and yet desperately wants to seek the outside world and grow as a person is at risk for believing that this person can really exist. The only person who can truly pull you out of your bunker is you. It has to be conscious, and it will be a lot of hard work, but if you do, your likelihood of meeting that dream girl who wants to travel and experience life increase exponentially.
Yea, I've started to realize that. I feel like that I'm "ready" to go, but I'd like one small extra push, most likely from someone who feels the same way. As it stands, I'm just surrounded by people who like to stay in the same place, doing the same things. And it feels "wrong" to go against that. Finding someone who will basically say "lets do it" and go would make it a lot easier. Which is what I mean by "pull me out of my bunker". Basically just someone to say "it's okay, lets do it" rather than everyone saying "it's a bad idea, just keep doing what you are doing." That, and I'm waiting for about 2 more months or so, so I can finish up my degree. It's not so much a lack of a desire, but rather, lack of initiative and motivation. Following the flow is much easier and comfortable. Having someone beside me doing the same thing would make it a lot easier just to hit the red button.